Of Love, Weddings and Being a Good Wife

This morning, Dad asked me if i'm happy to be getting hitched after my 9-year-love-marathon and i gave him the affirmative answer of course! Then, he asked me if i felt sad and i started getting emo all over again. Dad reminded me to drop by often for dinner and call them when i can. This whole feeling is so dejavu - reminds me of my Aussie days when the whole family (especially mum) will cry everytime i have to return to Perth. I think i'm so gonna cry at the wedding!!! The groom has no doubt that he will too and even Becky is also saying that she probably will shed a tear or two during the church ceremony. I just hope Mum and Dad won't get too emo because then i'll get super emo too!!! Girls (and boys if applicable), wear waterproof mascara please!!! Haha!

I suppose things won't be that bad initially because we'll be shuttling between both homes, but once our new place is up and ready, i think mum and dad will definitely feel the loss. FOUR living beings (me, Chester, Tutti, Sophie) disappearing from your household is not funny at all. I just hope Mum and Dad don't get too lonely......

Speaking of weddings, i just attended a really beautiful and touching wedding dinner. At many different points of the dinner, i nearly broke out in tears, especially when the groom was confessing his love for the bride (he liked her since primary 5, now beat that!). He then went on, serenaded her with this cantonese love song and i think alot of us present were really, really moved. I love attending weddings because it's such an overwhelming feeling to witness the love between 2 people.....which explains why i always cry at weddings too!!

Anyhow, people around me have been kind enough to give me pep-talks on what is expected of a wife. I think the recent Channel 8, 9pm show gives quite a good insight on the differences between a man and a woman, and i hope i don't become a naggy hag like Huang Biren in future!!! Auntie Jenny from work has been telling me about her and her ah lao, and according to her, the success of her marriage is based on trust and being non-naggy (muahahhaa!). "不要一直念念念念念", so she says.

I know a couple facing a relationship crisis recently and i must say that the nagging thing is one of the reasons causing their relationship to sour, to the point that he doesn't want to return home to her and would rather spend time outside with his friends without her knowledge. I must admit that years ago, i used to nag (i call it reminding) at Dan about money matters but i've chilled out alot these days, so that's good news for Dan (who happens to like buying expensive toys...)! Funny thing is, after i stopped nagging, he claims that i'm his CFO and is more keen on seeking my opinions on his purchases! Talk about reverse psychology man....muahahahhaa!

Dad and Mum have also been pep-talking me on how important it is for the woman to know how to feed and pamper her husband well. Mum has been trying to impart her culinary skills to me so now i just need to have my own kitchen so that i don't make hers explode! Dad on the other hand, being a lucky man, has been telling me how good Mum is how Mum manages to tie him to her. He also reminded me that communication is the most important thing to a successful marriage and that he'll be here for us, as an unbiased judge, should we run into problems we can't solve.

Honestly, Mum and Dad are a great couple and i hope that my marriage will be like theirs too. I think it helps that they both share a common passion which is music (and serving the Lord). I can't imagine having to live with someone who's totally not into what i'm into. I don't think a couple necessarily have to be alike, but fundamentally, it'll be great to have someone who sees things like you do, to love things that you love and to share the same dreams and goals in life with you. There're only so many dinners you can do and so many movies you can watch with each other....then what?

As much as i'd love to say "love conquers all", i'd hate to imagine being stuck with someone who doesn't like dogs, cannot stand through a noisy rock gig, has no passion for music, cannot appreciate literature, poetry and lame jokes, is not a foodie, doesn't like chilling out over drinks or cannot carry a conversation about anything under the sun from Snuffleupagus to dog behaviour to ah beng cars.

Without being too cheesy, i just feel blessed for finding my soulmate. I'm one of those who believe in "the one" and i'm so glad i've found my special one and will be spending the rest of my life with him. It wasn't an easy, smooth-sailing 9 years but we've made it at last.....at long last.

31 more days to the big day! :)